“I’d be torn apart, if I wrote about pallus the way you wrote ‘Office Power Doesn’t Stay in Your Pants,’” a male colleague told me. His fear exposed the hypocrisy we harbour: you’ll rage against predatory pants but flinch when gender scripts are reversed. Let’s rip the band-aid off.You sense the dissonance, but lack the language to address it without getting cancelled. But if you want to build a legacy of challenging the status quo and provoking meaningful change, that level of risk is common and somewhat expected.